A few nights ago, I taught my husband the importance of the thumb in maintaining control in a household.
This, of course, is knowledge passed on to me by my father who learned it from . . . well, I think he came up with it himself.
Every night, after our homework was finished and Dad had read the Wall Street Journal, after Mom had cleared off the kitchen table and we girls were edging toward bed (well, all except for my middle sister who loved to save practicing the clarinet until about 10:30 at night), we’d gather in our living room, spread out across the floor and sofa and chairs, to read the Bible.
My dad would crack open his black leathery Bible and proceed with reading a chapter to us.
But before he would, he’d survey the room. If any of us girls were sprawled across the floor or flopped over the arm of a chair looking about to fall asleep, he’d poke his thumb up in the air about five times in a row and then say like he meant it (because he did), “Sit up!”
We’d groan and sigh and prop ourselves in an upright position. And eventually it became a joke (ok, and still is) to the point that any time anyone is sitting anything other than her very straightest, one of us will produce our thumb and bellow, “Sit up!”
But there was something to that gesture of Dad’s and the words that came with it. Reading the Bible wasn’t like perusing a magazine or talking on the phone. It was set apart, special, to be paid attention to.
And this taught us something.
All these decades later, we girls are still talking about it.
And by “talking about it” I mean “giving him grief about his flagrant gesturing” at pretty much every conceivable opportunity.
But we did learn this: Family devotions were important to our parents and so they became and still are important to us.
Posture, not so much.
So if you are a dad or a mom, if you have kids living with you because their own home life is awful, if you are raising a grandchild, if you’re a couple without kids or a single person who prays to one day have them, here’s what I can promise you:
- Your young ones won’t forget the time you spend in God’s Word, even when they’re 30 years old . . . and possibly living on a dairy farm.
- It doesn’t matter if they moan or groan. They’re listening, even if they’re faking it.
- Dads, if you think family devotions are ridiculous, your kids will too. They pay attention. They’re watching.
- God’s Word works. It’s formative, creative. He spoke the world into being, after all. Think what His Word can do for you and your child!
- It forms a habit, and habits are hard to break. And when it comes to daily time in God’s Word, there’s no better habit to be hooked on. (Although the one I have of going through life without ever watching “Titanic” is a pretty sweet one too.)
- Devotions don’t have to be dour. They can be a cause for a lot of laughter in a family. Not that I — the one who, upon hearing my dad list off the Jebusites and Hittites and Amorites, piped up as a little girl, “And the mosquito bites?” — would know.
- You make the time for football games, 4-H meetings and movies. You can make time for this.
Oh yeah, and one last thing: Don’t be afraid to employ the use of the sit-up thumb. That thing works.
(Hey, your kids need to give you grief about something when they get older; you might as well make it good.)
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Thank you for this Adriane, it’s so encouraging to hear from someone who survived a family devoted to real steadfastness to God’s Word, even when it’s not “fun” or “flashy” and lived to tell about it in a favorable light. It gets downright exhausting trying to corral five little very wiggly boys into sitting still for God’s Word but this encourages me that it really is worth the faithful “fight”.
My father was the greatest childhood influence in fostering a love for the Word of God. My sisters and I all remember many nights huddled together in the living room as he read from the Psalms during times of sorrow and praise.
(I have no idea why, but your comment about Titanic prompted me to search Youtube for “My Heart Will Go On”. With all due respect to the artists and creators of the film, I just want to assure you that you are not missing much by not seeing the movie.)
Sounds to me like you have a great dad . . . and impeccable taste in movies. 🙂
Altar time can be a challenge, and there are certainly days when my husband is studying late or off flying helicopters (because, you know, money is helpful) and I think to myself “maybe I should cut devotions short and we can just do the Lord’s prayer but skip the creed or the commandments”. But thankfully my 5 year old doesn’t let me skimp. No matter how tired we are, how much the toddler and the baby are crying, and how many dishes we still have piled in the sink, this raising them in God’s Word, every day, is quite possibly one of the most important tasks we have has parents. Granted, we have yet to include all the kids in the altar time, because the 2 year old distracts the 5 year old, and the baby goes to bed earlier…… but eventually we’ll have them all together to read the bible and pray together as we go through the Catechism.
You are a good mama! While the Lord hasn’t yet blessed us with children, we’ve witnessed other parents wrangle their kids for nightly devotions, and we are so thankful they do. It is important work you do!